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Don't know how to feel about this, my daughters BF just got a motorcycle this yr unbeknown to me. well today she came in and was excited to show me her new helmet that she bought.

Not really liking the fact that she will be on a bike with someone that i've never seen ride before or know his riding habits
 
Every parent's nightmare. I would go out for a ride with him, separate bikes. If you trust his riding capabilities, then you ride as passenger with him.
Man that is a tough position to be in.
 
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If it were me I'd have a chat with the young man separately. Politely but firmly express your expectations that he do everything in his power to keep her AND himself safe. Make him look you in the eye, man to man conversation.

Then let her know if she ever feels unsafe she needs to tell him and you.
 
I would want to see her gloves/gauntlets, riding jacket, riding pants, and full boots.
I've got enough gear to fit a small army of all sizes, back when the company was selling off the inventory in oakville me and the kids went and stocked up even though we didn't know for sure if this day would ever come.

Although my youngest girl and my son both have their M2
 
How old is your daughter’s boyfriend and how long has he been riding? If he’s able to get insurance these days that’s a good sign. I remember in high school I had started dating this real nice girl. She called me one day and said her parents wanted to meet me. I told her I would be right over. I jumped on my brand new 1980 GS750 with a Yosh pipe and headed over there at warp speed. I was barely 18 at the time and pretty oblivious but I could tell her mother was absolutely horrified.
 
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I was a Chief Instructor with the Edmonton Motorcycle Training Course.
Many of our students where young females.
After the course they often where warry of riding behind someone with questionable skills.
You can't fight it so your best bet is to get her booked into a course ASAP.
The down side is you will end up having to buy her a motorcycle!
 
How old is your daughter’s boyfriend and how long has he been riding? If he’s able to get insurance these days that’s a good sign. I remember in high school I had started dating this real nice girl. She called me one day and said her parents wanted to meet me. I told her I would be right over. I jumped on my brand new 1980 GS750 with a Yosh pipe and headed over there at warp speed. I was barely 18 at the time and pretty oblivious but I could tell her mother was absolutely horrified. She was far more concerned about her daughter riding on that bike than the probability that she was having sex with this hoodlum.
He is in his mid 20s, seems like a respectable young man. but all bets are off when you get on a ltr bike and stupid kicks in
 
He is in his mid 20s, seems like a respectable young man. but all bets are off when you get on a ltr bike and stupid kicks in
That’s good to hear. If he’s had even one or two infractions he would never have gotten insurance. I would insist that your daughter wear the appropriate gear at all times or there’s going to be a problem. When I see new riders in t-shirts and shorts on hot days I always tell them don’t dress for the weather, dress for the crash.
 
That’s good to hear. If he’s had even one or two infractions he would never have gotten insurance. I would insist that your daughter wear the appropriate gear at all times or there’s going to be a problem. When I see new riders in t-shirts and shorts on hot days I always tell them don’t dress for the weather, dress for the crash.
Thanks that's great advice, I'll definitely be going out for a couple of long rides with him just for my own peace of mind
 
Tough call, but not totally unexpected.

As a father of 2 daughters, I worry about that day coming to me soon enough (they're both less than 7). Also as a father of a boy...that discussion may have to happen also and it's one of the reasons my wife is leaning toward selling the bike... 'Don't teach them about it and maybe they won't want one'.

I'm torn.

As for your daughter...best words 'Honey, I love you. But if you EVER EVER feel unsafe with this guy on the back of his bike, you get off, you call me, and I'll come get you no matter when/where'.
 
Talk to him\them they way you would want to be spoken to, express your concerns and reasonable expectations for riding habits, safety etc. don't try to be "the cool guy" just a father who loves his daughter and wants to ensure she is cared for and kept as safe as possible.
 
Thanks that's great advice, I'll definitely be going out for a couple of long rides with him just for my own peace of mind
Meh. If he's smart he will just be on his best behavior.
 
If you want your daughter on a nice bike...I reposted the Scrambler again ;)

Just saying...may as well get her going on her own bike! Since you lost out on that X I had!
 
Don't know how to feel about this, my daughters BF just got a motorcycle this yr unbeknown to me. well today she came in and was excited to show me her new helmet that she bought.

Not really liking the fact that she will be on a bike with someone that i've never seen ride before or know his riding habits
Ask to see his riding boots. Be worried if they are flip-flops.
 
Tough call, but not totally unexpected.

As a father of 2 daughters, I worry about that day coming to me soon enough (they're both less than 7). Also as a father of a boy...that discussion may have to happen also and it's one of the reasons my wife is leaning toward selling the bike... 'Don't teach them about it and maybe they won't want one'.

I'm torn.

As for your daughter...best words 'Honey, I love you. But if you EVER EVER feel unsafe with this guy on the back of his bike, you get off, you call me, and I'll come get you no matter when/where'.
Both my kids ride 7 and 9 I would expect that either of them would not get on with anyone else. I don't think selling the bike would make any difference.

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