Quitting for 5 years, anyone do this before?

[inreb]

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Thanks. I'm terrified of being a daddy...but the little cousins along the way help out

The kid should be terrified of being alive. 80+ years of suffering, 75+ of those years contemplating it's eventual demise. Also save for retirement, might not get cancer.

 

[inreb]

Btw OP (I can't @ you because I have no effing idea how to spell it) my wife sounds very similar to your girl. Low key. Doesn't spend on frivolous things. Makes more than I do....just wanted to fyi so you don't think I'm criticizing.

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Despite all that you wouldn't do it again? Most guys would kill for that setup.

 

[油井緋色]

I'm the oldest of 5 kids, my youngest sibling being 14 years my junior. I was watching them since I was 10. Taught my wife how to change diapers. It's not easy, but nothing that should scare you. And we all make mistakes as parents. For me personally, my life began to make sense when my first was born. All the best.
**thread hijack over**
Btw OP (I can't @ you because I have no effing idea how to spell it) my wife sounds very similar to your girl. Low key. Doesn't spend on frivolous things. Makes more than I do....just wanted to fyi so you don't think I'm criticizing.

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I can't spell my own name either actually. I always have to copy and paste it lol

It's good to hear that there are other women, though rare, with similar mindsets. I'm always open to constructive criticizing so no worries, makes for a good learning experience or compare/contrast of views.

......unless someone does it like LoneRonin's style.

 

[Joe Bass]

Despite all that you wouldn't do it again? Most guys would kill for that setup.

Who's side are you on anyway??

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[DucatiDan]

Stopped riding for 10 years after university to do some adulting. Happy to report that this is just a phase and you can go back to being a child once your own children surpass your maturity level.

 

[inreb]

Who's side are you on anyway??

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No sides except truth.

 

[bigpoppa]

Btw OP (I can't @ you because I have no effing idea how to spell it) my wife sounds very similar to your girl. Low key. Doesn't spend on frivolous things. Makes more than I do....
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I think we all married the same girl....

 

[LoneRonin]

I can't spell my own name either actually. I always have to copy and paste it lol

It's good to hear that there are other women, though rare, with similar mindsets. I'm always open to constructive criticizing so no worries, makes for a good learning experience or compare/contrast of views.

......unless someone does it like LoneRonin's style.

Damn right buddy, 8+'s only with a good warranty if you can get one!!

I think we all married the same girl....

Well she really must be low key if she's getting around that much and you all think she's a good girl...

 

[Riceburner]

BTW @mimico_ploak Congrats! Kids are a blessing imo. Sometimes they drive you nuts....but a blessing nonetheless.

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Stop lying to him. They are a pain. Remember when you were a teen???? Nuff' said. Just wait till they are still living under your roof when they are 35.


...I figure I can still change a diaper in under 5 minutes though. Just glad I don't have to.

 

[Joe Bass]

Stop lying to him. They are a pain. Remember when you were a teen???? Nuff' said. Just wait till they are still living under your roof when they are 35.


...I figure I can still change a diaper in under 5 minutes though. Just glad I don't have to.

Let me be clear: I want to ring my 12 year old's neck multiple times daily, he's caused me to very nearly have heart attacks and my bp is through the roof....but he is exactly what I was like at his age and I love him and his brother more than absolutely anything on this earth. Including ice cream.
I sometimes randomly call my dad and apologize for things I did all those years ago.
As far as still living at home at 35....well that's 23 years away and I'm just hoping to still be alive at 66 ?

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[Neil_V]

Men just don't get it! Do not undervalue the importance of symbolism.

A women's test in life is material; a man's test in life is a women

 

[Blackfin]

Maybe this is already somewhere in the last 8 pages of thread but if you take time away now and go down the path of debt repayment and doing adult-stuff, it may be for more than 5 years. Engagements typically lead to marriage; not cheap. Marriage often leads to bigger/better living arrangements (read "mortgage"); not cheap. Mortgages may also lead to new furnishings, renovations (a kitchen can cost $40,000...) as the wife makes a nest; not cheap. Marriage can also lead to kids (soooooo not cheap; stuff sold to make room for the minivan and child seats; RESPs, clothes, sports/activities etc etc etc); if you have kids it may be 20 years before you ride again.

 

[Neil_V]

Maybe this is already somewhere in the last 8 pages of thread but if you take time away now and go down the path of debt repayment and doing adult-stuff, it may be for more than 5 years. Engagements typically lead to marriage; not cheap. Marriage often leads to bigger/better living arrangements (read "mortgage"); not cheap. Mortgages may also lead to new furnishings, renovations (a kitchen can cost $40,000...) as the wife makes a nest; not cheap. Marriage can also lead to kids (soooooo not cheap; stuff sold to make room for the minivan and child seats; RESPs, clothes, sports/activities etc etc etc); if you have kids it may be 20 years before you ride again.

Agreed; it's always harder to regain what you had then hold on to what you have. Unless she's in love with motorbikes, tread carefully

 

[bigpoppa]

Maybe this is already somewhere in the last 8 pages of thread but if you take time away now and go down the path of debt repayment and doing adult-stuff, it may be for more than 5 years. Engagements typically lead to marriage; not cheap. Marriage often leads to bigger/better living arrangements (read "mortgage"); not cheap. Mortgages may also lead to new furnishings, renovations (a kitchen can cost $40,000...) as the wife makes a nest; not cheap. Marriage can also lead to kids (soooooo not cheap; stuff sold to make room for the minivan and child seats; RESPs, clothes, sports/activities etc etc etc); if you have kids it may be 20 years before you ride again.

hm...

 

[DucatiDan]

Maybe this is already somewhere in the last 8 pages of thread but if you take time away now and go down the path of debt repayment and doing adult-stuff, it may be for more than 5 years. Engagements typically lead to marriage; not cheap. Marriage often leads to bigger/better living arrangements (read "mortgage"); not cheap. Mortgages may also lead to new furnishings, renovations (a kitchen can cost $40,000...) as the wife makes a nest; not cheap. Marriage can also lead to kids (soooooo not cheap; stuff sold to make room for the minivan and child seats; RESPs, clothes, sports/activities etc etc etc); if you have kids it may be 20 years before you ride again.

Pretty much my story. I was out for 10 years and did all the above mentioned (plus an in-ground pool which was big bucks). If you do the adulting part right, you can have it all in the end. I now have the job, wife, kids, cars, house and Ducati. Just get your priorities straight, get a good job and man up.

 

[PrivatePilot]

I was out for 10 years and did all the above mentioned (plus an in-ground pool which was big bucks). If you do the adulting part right, you can have it all in the end. I now have the job, wife, kids, cars, house and Ducati. Just get your priorities straight, get a good job and man up.

This. Very much this. With emphasis on the bold parts.

If earning potential doesn't allow for everything you wanted in life, make adjustments. Think long and hard about kids vs no kids, think about that huge fancy house vs a more modest one, decide if that $100,000 wedding really makes sense, think if that $75,000 new truck makes sense vs the $20,000 used one that looks nearly as good.

Or, ultimately...sort out your priorities in life. It IS possible to still have toys when you're in the midst of adulting unless your earning minimum wage forever, or you're living beyond your means.

 

[Riceburner]

...... if you have kids it may be 20 years before you ride again.

Nope, rode all through. Their other parent did stop riding though.

 

[Matt Rain]

Got licensed and bought my beater right after (and because) the wife told me she was pregnant. I figured I wouldn't be able to afford anything else for years. I was right. :happy8:

 

[Face]

I have never paid credit card interest, never bought a toy with a loan and would never advocate getting in debt to YOLO, but you also can't put off enjoying life while you build your place in it. 5 years easily becomes 10, becomes 20, and if it's not enjoyable, resentment can really mess with a relationship. The key is finding the balance. And there are always ways to do things without breaking the bank. I skiied for free for 25 years by volunteering, first as ski patrol, then as race crew.

If you're with a good woman (& it sounds like the OP is), you'll support her with the things that are important to her and she'll do the same for you. Sure, the mortgage may take a little longer to pay off or the car may not be as fancy, but if you're enjoying yourself along the way, those things become less important.

My comment about price of the ring was really a push to say, if you're gonna do something, do it right. If both of you aren't into the rings, or don't like the diamond industry, that's great. But if you want to surprise her with something special, do it when you realistically can, and make it nice. Although we're technically not married, I've been with my spouse for 24 great years. Neither of us felt the need for the ring or piece of paper. For our 20th anniversary, I wanted to do something special, so I pre-selected 5 designs & surprised her with a stop at the shop. It may have taken a while before I could do it, but it was worth every penny to do it right.

 

[Baggsy]

I kind of quit before I started. Wife was still in school (Phd) when I cut my salary in half to switch into computers. Then we had to live on our own and save for a house. She likes to travel so we saved for that as well. Once we were financially stable, the kids came into our lives. Eventually though, she was making more than I was, and insurance would supply the rest, so I got my first bike. The important thing is to be with someone who you can trust with your back.

Oh, and free room and board, clothes, toys, medicine, all you can eat food, and most importantly, love and understanding, is nothing to sneeze at from your parents.
My sister in law saved every penny from her summer and part time jobs as a kid, and ended up with a house down payment by the time she was married.

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