If we all have the option to date any girl we want, we would probably want to date a supermodel at least once in our life time. After several years we might change our mind and want someone who we feel comfortable with. At least supermodel looks good when you take her to meet your friends at Timmies but whether or not you really like her in bed is a different story![]()
Speak for yourself =P Personality and an authentic connection go a long way...hell, they even up the confidence and attraction level.
To the OP...I'll make another analogy.
At the gym, I see idiots constantly starting at a weight way out of their comfort zone. They want to show off. However, they have horrible form...hell, they never focused on form. They'll get their friends to film their pathetic 1 rep max 2 plate 1/4th squat. They plateau extremely quickly and/or get injured and never come back to the gym.
You have the odd special snowflake that has superior genetics that somehow ends up deadlifting 5 plates a year later...but chances are, you aren't a special snowflake.