been following this thread and can relate to you OP.....had been riding an FZ6 for a few years and really liked it,
got the bug for something with a little more HP, weight and upright ergos as I found most miles were on long trips
bought an FJ09 2 years ago based on strong reviews, was overseas and had no chance to sit one one, deal done over the net
when I picked it up after the first 30 minutes I was really depressed as the bike was awful....high, heavy, clunky, uncomfortable
over time I got the controls setup, suspension just right for me and my riding style...then spent a few bucks on an Air Boss cushion,
MadStad adjustable touring screen, and just recently new tires, had no idea how awful the stock tires were until I took them off
thinking back I had several issues with the FZ6 that needed tweaking before I liked it, now the FJ09 fits me like a glove and is
a joy to ride all day and I'll keep this bike forever
so it will take a bit of time, some tweaking, and a few $ likely before this bike feels right for you