It sounds like your mother needs professional help.
Yeah, man. Did no one read these threats to harm herself?
It sounds like your mother needs professional help.
My kids live under my roof they follow my rules. Don't like the rules? Get a job and get the hell out. Want to use me to save your fortune but won't respect my rules? Again, get a job and get the hell out.
If one of my kids ever slapped their mother it'd be the last thing they'd ever do while living under the roof I provide.
I did what I wanted to pretty much from the age of twelve. For some reason I found myself living on my own at 15.
Many times I have wished I had listened to my parents and followed their rules.
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This is apparently more common than I ever though, I cant imagine living in a house full of crazy.
There are definitely major differences in households. However I don't ask anything of my kids that is unreasonable. The usual, do chores, homework, show some respect for the people who care for you.油井緋色;2545207 said:You're not Asian are you? Likely some kind North American or European ancestry? You should be really grateful for the stability of your upbringing and what you brought for your kids because there are many others who are not brought up that way. Accept the fact that everyone is different and there is no real "best way." At the same time, I have been envious of the friendly relationship my white friends and their parents have.
Here are a few scenarios either I've been apart of or heard of that completely blur your line of black and white thinking:
The Forced Marriage
Mother puts oldest daughter in pre-arranged marriage. Guy treats daughter incredibly well for a few years. Guy suddenly disappears after getting Canadian citizenship. A few years pass and daughter is forced to move back to parent's because she was a house wife at age 18, has zero skills, and was somehow living with a sexually abusive boy friend. Mother has overly restrictive rules. Daughter blames her entire life going wrong on her mother. Daughter tries to strangle mother. Police are called. Father does not want to press charges. Months pass. Daughter is now manipulating mother. Every other sibling is trying to convince the mom/dad to kick the daughter out.
Projection of Failures
Whenever the mother in this household does not get what she wants, she threatens to divorce or kill herself. This is always a feint. The father would immediately leave the house upon this happening, leaving two kids to deal with a raging unstable mother. Get the mom help you say? The kids are 3 and 6 respectively who don't know any better. The 6 year old tells the 3 year old to go to sleep, and everything will be okay. Meanwhile, the mother is downstairs cutting herself and screaming (look up psychosis.) 6 year old goes downstairs in tears, mother threatens to leave and never come back, 6 year old doesn't know any better and blocks the door.
The above goes on for 15+ years. Best part was, when the 6 year old got older, he drank w/ the dad on a day where the mom was in psychosis and asked "why did you marry this crazy *****?" The dad burst out on tears and said "I am sorry." This is after 15 years of the 6 year old saying "what's going on isn't normal, and we need to fix this."
So dude, with all due respect, take the black and white thinking and chuck it out the window.
you think the mafia is bad? My mom came at me with cricket bats(they're bigger than baseball bats) when i was a kid. This was back home, they stopped when we moved to canada, because that stuffs illegal. and you cant bribe the police here
They're also quite victorian in their attitudes about sex (in 2018 )
Ya'll got it easy with your time outs, go to your rooms and 'my roof my rules'
There are definitely major differences in households. However I don't ask anything of my kids that is unreasonable. The usual, do chores, homework, show some respect for the people who care for you.
In my house this works because there aren't any crazy people. I can't speak for others and their situations.
I've reread what I wrote, I didn't intend for it to come across as an attack or judgment, more sharing my thoughts on the situation.
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I'm currently wanting to live in the city because my University is located down here. I've no plans on living down here after I graduate from school, which is gonna be another 4 years, since I'm currently only in my first year at University at the moment.
My goal after post-secondary is to move to Vancouver, where there are many riders and beautiful places to ride through (such as Sea To The Sky highway). The sense of riding through the mountains, where I could see the ocean just right beside me is incredible.
油井緋色;2545213 said:Sounds like you'd fit right in with that bar night I had a few weeks ago <_<
Mine still beat me pretty hard here. They also would beat us more if we didn't wear long sleeves to school the next day to hide the really blue/purple bruises lol
....I'm willing to bet money that the OP's mother may have similar issues too.
What the **** is it with Asians and raising crazy women?! And why do white people have yellow fever?!
I dont know, but i suspect my horrid relationship with my mother might have something to do with my preferences in women(in that i cant stand indian women)
油井緋色;2545240 said:I can't stand Chinese, Korean, or Taiwanese women....it all makes sense....
.......damn, I think you should write a book on this lol
Wow...let me know when there's another bar night. Half breed kids don't follow either background it seems. They can be disrespectful sh**s and you can't put them in their place.
putting them in their place doesn't meant beating. There are many that are just snowflakes.
油井緋色;2545259 said:... I mean that's what those bar nights were for....talking about us getting beaten...lol
putting them in their place doesn't meant beating. There are many that are just snowflakes.