Rant: Snake crap eating scumballs

[meester_jamie]

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[LiNK666]

This is how family members stop talking to each other. Someone crosses a new line by grabbing too much, someone else gets a lawyer involved, then they all take a blood feud to their graves. Seems stupidly shortsighted to me, but for all we know they already hated each other.

This is very true. Currently cut a family member off because of this. It's completely stupid, but neither wants to step and reconcile first. Relationships will never be the same even after we make amends.

I told my parents I don't want any money. They can give it to my brother or give my portion to his kids. There is no point in fighting or arguing over stupid things like these.

 

[klr_guy]

I'll be the executor of my parent's estate. My older brother is out on Vancouver island and we have little to do with each other, minus courtesy calls on nephew/ niece birthdays. Hoping it's many years down the road and he behaves himself...

 

[crankcall]

it becomes a challenge when people cant separate the emotional side for the business end. I'm not suggesting people should not be emotional , your settling an estate because someone passed away. But the "well sis got 10k in 1988" and "fred got a mortgage loan in 2002" , well if your folks were too trusting to have it on paper it doesnt matter now. Play the hand you are holding and move on. If you didnt like your siblings before, this will not make things better.
Its ok to ask relative X to bring back whatever went missing "as a rememberance" IF your the executor, you can be polite about it. That whole "I have nothing to remember granny" as they leave with 10k of sterling flatware. Thats not a rememberence, its looting.


Nothing bring a family together like a wedding or a funeral.

 

[CruisnGrrl]

[video=youtube;J5kGUW6M7W0]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5kGUW6M7W0[/video]

 

[Dresden]

At risk of sounding racist here, but what culture are we talking about?

I've never seen anything like that happen with my friends or family that have died.

I don't think what OP is describing is a "cultural" issue. People be greedy, yo!

 

[Rob MacLennan]

I have the distinctly unlucky situation of being the executor of my mother's will (simply because I am the only logical person left alive in the family). My sisters would be a main attraction draw at an illegal cage fight card (not kidding - blood feud of doom here), and both feel entitled to inheritance (both have asked for early inheritance already) -- me, I tell my mom to spend willy-nilly and enjoy herself.

Could I see my sisters grabbing whatever they could out of my mother's home to make sure they get their fair share? Absolutely.
Completely wrong and disgusting... it reached the point I refuse to spend any time with more than 1 of my family members at a time.

So yes, I understand the OP's question completely. When a family is disfunctional and siblings are more interested in their own gain, this exact situation is guaranteed to occur.

I have almost exactly the same issue. I asked NOT to be the executor. For myself, I want nothing, and told my mother to burn every last cent before she goes.