Calling folks mentally weak is harsh I would call it more overcoming our built in defense of saving some for the swim back JS.
It's meant to be harsh, but with sympathy and empathy.
I've mentioned this before: I was once really fat. Life itself punishes us on a regular basis and here I was eating 3 McChicken combos for lunch, getting lost in the instant euphoria of shoving fat down my throat, ignoring the fact that I was starting to look like Cartman from South Park; nobody that's fat is unaware that they are fat.
The shame I carried weighed heavier than anything I'll ever lift. I was reminded of it with every step I took, and every time I watched an anime, movie, or TV show where somebody who looked like they took care of themselves would save the world.
And then I got dumped. The super hot 21 year old model (I was 17, so yeah, my ego was appropriately through the roof lol) I was dating told me she found another guy who wasn't fat. And she told me while we were dating. It took a while to sink in....but I realized I'd been cheated on.
Through some sheer miracle I didn't victimize myself. I looked in the mirror and saw a fat piece of **** failing at not only taking care of himself, but in nearly every aspect in life. So I took the shame and guilt I felt for myself and accepted that I deserved every bit of those feelings without remorse or mercy.
It's been a very long time since then. I'm still an ultimately flawed human being. And life has continued to beat the ever living **** out of me. But rather than hiding behind some ******** facade of perfection, hiding my shame of being flawed, I carry my failures and weaknesses close to my heart but as openly as possible. And it ******* pisses me off when people who are clearly bullshitting their weaknesses, who are much older than me, have somehow allowed that ******** to become their identity.
The overweight rate in Canada is around 65%. A small % of those (I think 6% of the 65%? Somebody with a health science background has updated stats, mine are from 2008) have legit genetic deficiencies. The vast majority, however, hide behind a guise of "health issues."
Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!
I listen to this as my first workout "song" to remind myself to get the **** up and push. I don't deserve mercy, remorse, empathy, or sympathy for being weak because I, like everyone else, am naturally a coward. So that's why I call out those who don't voluntarily force themselves to grow as being weak, because I do it to myself all the time. And I know that there are some crazy mother fuckers out there who will read this and then do something about it.
As for all the people I offend along the way...that's ultimately their problem. They can choose to use this info as a positive feedback loop and enforce their ********, or as a trigger and do this:
