Wrote M1, booked Safety Course...now wife freaking out?

**tricky** · 02-06-2012, 03:49 PM

Originally Posted by bikermahn

My wife's underlying feelings are simply we have two kids, i'm the only one working right now as she didn't make enough to justify going back to work. Joint decision, not just her wanting to be lazy :P I get it I totally do, but I just can't not do it. Assured her I would take all the precautions, safety course, a smaller bike and learn the ropes. I've said my part she has said her part, in the end she does support me to do what makes me happy, i'm sure as time goes on she will get more accustomed to it.

I am buying a 94 Ninja 250, in real good shape, and very cheap. Going to cost more for equipment/courses than the bike is costing.

I was talking to my friends (he's a rider) girlfriend of many years the other day, she said everytime he goes out on the bike she worries. That being said, she is now showing some interest in riding herself.

Riding is one of those things... I wouldn't feel comfortable about any of my family being on a bike, but if they tell me to stop, I'll punch them in the face.

**Lyndsay** · 02-07-2012, 09:52 AM

ABCarr, my story is similar, except I didn't get a bike earlier not only because of parental influence, but also because I was a restless idiot and I realized I probably would have killed myself on two wheels. The things I did (do) driving four wheels scare most of my passengers, but I haven't had an at-fault accident in 35+ years. They don't seem to realize how much attention I'm paying to the road and traffic and they get surprised, when I am expecting the idiot moves (it helps that I learned to drive in Boston I guess). Anyway, at 54 I decided I was mature enough to not kill myself and I found a bike I had always wanted; a 1975 Honda CB200t that a coworker was selling and haven't looked back. Similar to the OP, I thought my wife was on target with this and would probably get her M1 etc. as well, but not yet. Maybe this year after we sell the house she'll realize she has the time. It also helps that I don't live in the GTA as that place is crazy to travel in; no offence to those that do, but I hate it.

**rafiki911** · 02-07-2012, 11:20 AM

Sorry but I find it kind of weird that all of a sudden after doubling your life insurance it's now ok for those of you that have had to do that to make it easy for your other half.

Sorry I have no real responces to how to deal with the issue. I'm single and never had the issue, my hurdle was my parents and with everything else they fight me with I just went ahead and did it and they have to deal with it.

**Corsara** · 02-07-2012, 11:34 AM

Originally Posted by rafiki911

Sorry but I find it kind of weird that all of a sudden after doubling your life insurance it's now ok for those of you that have had to do that to make it easy for your other half.

Sorry I have no real responces to how to deal with the issue. I'm single and never had the issue, my hurdle was my parents and with everything else they fight me with I just went ahead and did it and they have to deal with it.

There are only two options: to ride or not ride. Nobody plans to die riding, but **** happens. Same as if you're walking on the street, a brick can fall from the sky and burst your head open. Much lower probability than getting in a bike accident though. No doubt you've got a better chance of staying alive if you never get on a bike, right?

So, in my family nobody tells nobody what to do. However, that doesn't mean that the call for a little bit responsibility is not there. When it comes to riding a bike, one has to think about the "what if" situation. Who are you gonna leave behind? If you're single, that's easy. If you have two young kids and a wife, then there is a whole different angle to the story. If you're alive, then you'll be there to provide, mortgage, food, put kids through school and college. If you're not there, then the life insurance should take care of that.

In my opinion, there are two very important reasons for my role in the family: 1) earn money for the above mentioned reasons; 2) be there, so my kids grow up having a father. You're right---life insurance won't give you everything. It will provide 1), but not 2). Still that's 1 out of 2 vs nothing at all. Gives at least a bit of peace of mind.

lol...i did get lost in my thoughts, didn't i

sorry

**Lyndsay** · 02-07-2012, 11:40 AM

Yes, you did Corsara, but you also explained it better than I was going to be able to.

**meme** · 02-07-2012, 11:42 AM

What if it isn't "ok?" - what next?

Not trying to be rude - but it's their problem and your desire.

**Lyndsay** · 02-07-2012, 11:52 AM

That's not being rude; that's a good question. It's hard to say and depends on the dynamics of your marriage/relationship. Like many things, there is often a compromise. Maybe they like doing something that you consider a waste of time or money; you make a deal. The problem is that in most compromises neither party is truly happy. Maybe part of the compromise is that you can only get a xxx cc bike, no larger, or no 4-lane roads, except to pass your test. You may be a bit ****** at that, but at least you're on a bike.

**rafiki911** · 02-07-2012, 12:50 PM

Ok it makes a bit more sence and you are talking to a girl that got hit by a car while standing on a side walk so I absolutely understand **** happens.

Originally Posted by Corsara

There are only two options: to ride or not ride. Nobody plans to die riding, but **** happens. Same as if you're walking on the street, a brick can fall from the sky and burst your head open. Much lower probability than getting in a bike accident though. No doubt you've got a better chance of staying alive if you never get on a bike, right?

So, in my family nobody tells nobody what to do. However, that doesn't mean that the call for a little bit responsibility is not there. When it comes to riding a bike, one has to think about the "what if" situation. Who are you gonna leave behind? If you're single, that's easy. If you have two young kids and a wife, then there is a whole different angle to the story. If you're alive, then you'll be there to provide, mortgage, food, put kids through school and college. If you're not there, then the life insurance should take care of that.

In my opinion, there are two very important reasons for my role in the family: 1) earn money for the above mentioned reasons; 2) be there, so my kids grow up having a father. You're right---life insurance won't give you everything. It will provide 1), but not 2). Still that's 1 out of 2 vs nothing at all. Gives at least a bit of peace of mind.

lol...i did get lost in my thoughts, didn't i

sorry

**OpenGambit** · 02-07-2012, 09:22 PM

Originally Posted by rafiki911

Sorry but I find it kind of weird that all of a sudden after doubling your life insurance it's now ok for those of you that have had to do that to make it easy for your other half.

Sorry I have no real responces to how to deal with the issue. I'm single and never had the issue, my hurdle was my parents and with everything else they fight me with I just went ahead and did it and they have to deal with it.

My family hates it, my gf tolerates it. But Its one of the few things that I can do that relieve stress, something I have a lot of.

But you gotta understand that this is really about a genuine interest in your health.
Guys who look at this like other people are stepping on your hopes and dreams is going about it the wrong way.

They way I see it, if you are married and you do have kids, your life is not just your own, So you can't just run around and do whatever you want.
The life insurance thing is just responsibility... Everyone should have those affairs in order.

**Roasted** · 02-08-2012, 12:31 PM

A lot easier when you start dating a chick when you`re already riding. Can always use the "you knew what you were signing up for when you met me" card.