Originally Posted by
oomis
Personally, the only kind of weapon that I would seriously stay away from are knives. Bladed weapons can slip if mishandled, and in particular in a sexual assault where things go to the ground in a struggle, it's not that the attacker could pick up the knife and use it on the victim, it's that the victim falls on the knife and ends up badly cut and bleeding. In particular this is a risk when the victim is panicking.
More generally, though, weapons in the hands of the inexperienced can give a very seriously flawed sense of security, and it's that false sense of security that can lead to not being aware of your surroundings. "I have a knife/gun/stick/spray - I don't have to be afraid. I can afford to be less aware". Same thing goes for a weekend self-defence course.
When you practice using your retractable baton and the attacker goes down on the first shot (or second, whatever), what happens when you flick out the baton, lay a solid shot across the face of the attacker, and they don't fall down like you practiced? All of a sudden, that false sense of bravado looks like the wrong choice compared with being more prudent.
Does this advice mean I would advocate being unarmed? Not necessarily. But that false sense of security gets people into an awful lot of trouble.
I guess, for me, it really boils down to fight or flight. If, in the heat of things, your brain pops and says "fight", then having something in your hands is probably a good idea. If, however, your brain says "flight", then whatever tool you have in your hands is going to be ineffective. Not only is it ineffective, but it will take precious seconds away from doing what your brain wants to do - which in this case is run.
The point that's been made previously is that a self defence class, even years of training, can't replicate the pop that happens in your brain when your life is really threatened. Everyone likes to think that they'll fight, but I'll tell ya, it ain't the case, and being armed doesn't change anything when that happens.
In any case, kudos to the OP for being concerned for a loved one.
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